discuss What is the effect of spoiling people?

[Jason]

My dad was a good man but he spoiled my family (mom included), minus one son, but he felt it was his duty as a man to provide.

Anyway, do you have personal stories of spoiled people?

 

[NatureFreak]

I really don't think it is wrong to spoil family members especially if they deserve it. It shows that family is very important to such a person. However, limit should also be observed.

 

[Augusta]

I think we need to appreciate persons that spoil us in a better way but to make us go astray

 

[eLdavis]

One major issue of spoiling people or over pampering them is that it could lead to them feeling entitled even in situations where they should not.

 

[theearner]

Spoiling people breeds entitlement, making them less resilient and appreciative.

 

[1stop]

One major issue of spoiling people or over pampering them is that it could lead to them feeling entitled even in situations where they should not.

Spoiling people can also retard someone's learning because the persons being spoilt do not learn to be problem-solvers. When all the choices are made for them and everything just falls into place, they may grow up to be impulsive and they may not know how to handle problems and disappointments in their lives.

 

[Fidelia1]

A man that was well to do kept spoiling his son and never allowed the boy do anything. But as life would have it, the man died as the boy turned 11. The boy barely understood anything about how to push in life. He ran into depression and had to be rescued quickly.

 

[Unlocked]

Nothing is more annoying to me than somebody who acts entitled to something, and it's usually because at no stage during their upbringing have they ever been told no or had firm boundaries set. (ie, in some way they've been spoiled)

Also, it's just not good typically for building life skills if everything is given to you and you're not made to want for things. That's just my opinion anyway.

 

[Yama]

In our place it is cultural acceptable for a man to become a provider. In fact, it is even though that men should be a provider. If a man provides for his family, I wouldn't think this as spoiling. However, if the man is providing more and the wife and kids are wasting money that would certainly be spoiling. My dad never did this and I will never do it.