advice What would you do if your partner of over 8 years Lied about his real age?

[Ashake]

A lot is happening in relationships and this one is a true story. It happened to someone I know. He found out that her partner, whom they’d been dating for over 8 years, lied about his age. He’s 55 and not 44, as he claimed. But she is just 33. She felt betrayed and confused. Unsure if she can continue with the relationship.

Has anyone else experienced something similar?

 

[ActionAce]

The age gap is significant. He is old enough to be his father. That was about 22 years of age difference! Honesty is the bedrock of relationships, but in this case, communication is key. They need to discuss their future together. It's very important.

 

[1stop]

I don't why we we had to lie sometimes to woo a girl. I think most of the guys do this, especially if the girl is your spec and she isn't complying with your proposal initially. It has happened to me before. But after I won her over, I had to tell her the truth and why I did that. And I promised never to do that again.

 

[Harsh World]

The age gap isn't the problem, but lying about it for 8 years is the problem.

If he could carry a lie that long, what else is he hiding, or what else does he have the potential to hide?

 

[Yama]

I would be certainly offended but not because of the age but because I was lied. There is no place of lies in relationship.I might forgive but I will never forget that I was lied.

 

[Ashake]

The age gap is significant. He is old enough to be his father.

Well, the age gap is indeed much but I have seen relationships like that work out. It doesn't, really matter, except for the lies.

If he could carry a lie that long, what else is he hiding

I still can't believe that someone could keep a deception that long. It means he has more skeletons in his cupboard. Such a relationship might not work out. There will always be trust issues.

 

[Unlocked]

For me it would be more about the lie itself than the actual age difference. While I'm quite young myself (late 20s) and have never been in a relationship with anyone younger or older than me by more than 3 years, I don't believe an age gap is inherently a bad thing, as long as it's not excessive. I'd be more worried about the reason somebody felt the need to deceive me than the fact they were older. I'm not sure if I'd be able to forgive the lie itself.

 

[Alamson]

For me it would be more about the lie itself than the actual age difference. While I'm quite young myself (late 20s) and have never been in a relationship with anyone younger or older than me by more than 3 years, I don't believe an age gap is inherently a bad thing, as long as it's not excessive. I'd be more worried about the reason somebody felt the need to deceive me than the fact they were older. I'm not sure if I'd be able to forgive the lie itself.

Age is just a number. Values and character are more important in a relationship. I can forgive the lie but it will be very difficult to forget.

 

[Augusta]

I would be offended by the lie and not the she gop. but imdont think I would see it as anything serious