Many people struggle with saying no, whether to social invitations, extra work, or favors. How do you set boundaries without feeling guilty? Have you found polite yet firm ways to turn things down?
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discuss What is the Best Way to Politely Say No Without Feeling Guilty?
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This thread focuses on relationships, including communication, dynamics, challenges, advice, and their impact on personal growth and connections.
Before now, refusing people proves to be notably tough for me because I never want to let people down. But now, things has changed. My main approach is considering myself first and maintaining respectful relationships with other people. I kind of established a clear boundary now.
You have to get it out of your head that you need to feel guilty.
I've learned to say no over the last few years and it has really helped me.
I used to say yes for everything relating to my little local influencer brand thing I got. I said yes to joining every board, yes to donating a free guided hike to ever fundraiser, yes to speaking for free...
I said yes so much that I became overwhelmed and neglected my own stuff.
Now, I say NO about 8 times out of 10. If I'm being paid, as long as it meets the amount I want (which isn't too much), then I'll say yes.
Until you get over that guilt thing, it will only drag you down.
Learn how to say no.
That was me too! I maintained a complete people pleasing lifestyle by accepting each demand that comes to me, whether it pleases me or not. But now, I have learnt to establish clear boundaries which made me care for my psychological state and emotional health. I find success by taking a few seconds before deciding whether to accept a request or not.
No is no for me. There's no way I'm going to start painting it to sound nice. If you can't take my no, it means you can't take my yes either.
People need to man up and say things the way then feel. Not keep pretending all the time.
People need to man up and say things the way then feel. Not keep pretending all the time.
In theory, yes. But when it involves your close friends, your family members, it might not be possible to clearly say no, and even if you say no, you might feel guilt
Extremely wise words from Shaun here. People need to learn to set boundaries.
I feel this is quite a recent phenomenon. Back when I was a kid we would say no all the time and to everything and everyone (just not to my dad, oh hell no!). It seems like these days there is this desire to be accepted and to acquiesce to every demand. I've had to have several key discussions with my kids who have said yes to doing things which they don't want to do or that are at odds with what they should be doing.
Say no. Enjoy the feeling of taking control of you.
This is a big problem with people begging for money. They can't take no for an answer, so either the victim (the one who might give money) gives in from the charity bullying or they have to be mean jerk.
It's their own problem, not mine. If a beggar don't like my no as an answer, will he or she come and take the money from my pocket? I don't entertain those kind of people especially online.
