discuss The Tug of War Between an Entitled Society and Abuse

[Jason]

On one hand, abuse from people is wrong, but then again, a society of people complaining about abuse is also a problem. For instance, if I go to work and I'm told in a non-dehumanizing fashion to do things, I see no problem with it, nor if I'm scolded for bad behavior. However, though, if psychos are running the business, that's a different story.

Note, this idea can be expanded to parenting, friendships, dating, whatever else.

 

[Harsh World]

However, though, if psychos are running the business, that's a different story.

Psychos generally can't run a successful business because they'll take the "abuse" too far and have too high of an employee churn that burns through people too quickly to 1) not ever achieve a mission and 2) develop a reputation of not being a pleasing workplace.

 

[Reelz]

For me, I handle constructive criticism with maturity because I know it's necessary to at least correct me and make me do better. Having said that, I believe there is a fine line between that and abuse but a kind of entitlement mentality can be a very big problem.

 

[Shawn]

However, though, if psychos are running the business, that's a different story.

That was the case at the last place I worked at for 13 years. It got worse so I quit and left them in a significant bind.

That's what happens when you don't treat your people right. They abandon you.

 

[Jason]

Psychos generally can't run a successful business because they'll take the "abuse" too far and have too high of an employee churn that burns through people too quickly to 1) not ever achieve a mission and 2) develop a reputation of not being a pleasing workplace.

Good point. The other replies good too.

 

[Harsh World]

Good point. The other replies good too.

There's also a fine line of motivation and abuse that you may not have considered.

While I wouldn't expect it of a CEO, I may not give as much leeway to a direct supervisor in the same field. Say, for instance, all toilets clogged on the 5th floor of a building and the supervisor chose you to get it done. It could be for a myriad of reasons to be you, such as if it was assigned to reduce OT hours of others as you're at 25 for the week, but others are at 38 (scattered shifts). That said, supervisors are typically salary, even at that level. If I saw them bust out 2-3 toilets with me and then have to call it quits because they have other administrative tasks or work to do, I'd say it wasn't abuse, and a pretty great boss. But, to understand that, you need a full picture, which sometimes doesn't reveal itself, i.e. the boss may not tell you that others would reach OT, or may not even assist in some free time, so it may feel like abuse.

I suppose with that example it's really a thought exercise if what you're doing is abuse or not. I wouldn't find anything wrong in asking why you were selected after the job is done. A competent (and good) supervisor should be able to briefly explain that instead of shrugging it off and saying something like, "It's in your job description."