discuss Punishments for children

[Lord Severus]

What are the usual punishments you give for children?

In different countries, it is different according to local contexts. I prefer timeouts to any physical forms of punishments. But I would like to know as parents, what are those that you usually resort to.

Disclaimer: I dont have children!

 

[Reelz]

Due to my experience as a parent, I observed that removing privileges from the children works better. My child gets restricted from playing whenever they fail to maintain proper behaviour. I call this withdrawal process and it works like magic. What you need do is withdraw what they like playing with the most, it is way better than serving them punishment.

 

[1stop]

Instead of punishing my children, I try to find out their motive for the misbehavior then find ways to resolve it. When my child draws on the wall, I stop them from doing so by giving them papers to draw on. It's like redirecting them to proper behaviour. The journey toward teaching children self-discipline can be difficult but it remains worthwhile for their growth.

 

[Shawn]

I don't have biological kids.

When I entered my stepdaughter's life, she was 12. She's now 19. Her mom (my wife) has threatened to spank if she truly deserved it. However, she has never done it and never even had to get close to doing it. She got grounded once for sneaking off on a trip out of state. Girls being girls but still something had to be done.

We were and still are involved in her life and business. We didn't let social media drama happen and made her delete problematic people on Snapchat.

That's what kids need. Parents who parent, not parents who want to be their friend.

She's a good kid. She is good to other people. She's pretty grumpy in the morning, though. That's when I like to mess with her the most. I've been cussed out with her eyes and looks many times LOL.

I don't think we need to hit our kids these days, but I do think we need to get in their lives and decide what's best for them as adults when their children.

When I was a kid, I got spanked. The spankings I got are probably considered abuse by today's standards. I'm okay. It didn't mess me up but I couldn't do that to a kid myself, personally.

 

[Alamson]

I use the stick and carrot approach for my children. Firstly, I differentiate between disobedience and ignorance. You get the stick (punishment) if you are disobedient. You can be grounded, do more chores or denied access to devices. But if I think you misbehave due to ignorance, I will properly explain the implications of your actions. You get the carrot (reward) if you have consistently shown good behaviour. The reward could be buying your favourite gadget.

 

[Yama]

I am raising two kids and based on my personal experience, I believe reward and punishment actually work with kids. For instance if you tell your kid, "you can play a video game after you finish homework" he might be encouraged to complete the homework. Likewise, if you tell your kid "there will be no TV if you continue to behave like this" he might just stop him from acting bad. You cannot raise your kids with 5 point parenting guide, you will have to find out what works best for your kid.

 

[Ja sa bong]

There are so many ways to punish a kid. If they are using smartphone, tablets and other tech gadgets, they can all be taken away with then being grounded in their rooms.

My mother will give me physical punishing like knelling down, raising my hands and carrying a stool.

 

[Jason]

Extreme cases of bullies and the like probably need corporal punishment, but lesser stuff might require the taking away of privileges, but this needs to be done wisely. For instance, I know this family where the kid is obsessed with VR stuff and the parents punish him for being on it too much, but they don't encourage him to develop other non-tech interests enough. (bodybuilding, sports etc.) and probably the bigger reason is they emasculate him constantly (overbearing, overprotective mom etc).

 

[Pete Griffin]

I never raised a hand to my kids. Truthfully, they are really good kids and well behaved. Both are 'adults' now but when they were younger a look was often enough to get them to behave if they were getting naughty. I never did punishments like removing things from them that they enjoyed.

If their behaviour was unacceptable I would talk to them about why they were misbehaving and try to get them to understand the consequences of their behaviour. Not consequences like, "you will be in trouble" but consequences in how their behaviour would make others feel.

 

[Jason]

I was a teacher once, I know that respect is paramount. You can't be the friend of students, for sure, at least not during class time.

 

[Ja sa bong]

I was a teacher once, I know that respect is paramount. You can't be the friend of students, for sure, at least not during class time.

If you ever make the mistake of being too friendly with your students during class time, they will never take your lectures serious and will joke about when they are in class.