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discuss How can couples manage togetherness with their independent time.
- Thread starter eLdavis
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This thread focuses on relationships, including communication, dynamics, challenges, advice, and their impact on personal growth and connections.
By finding the right partner with shared values and interests in the first place.
You grow together, not apart.
I get that everyone still needs me time, but you should enjoy most of the time with your partner, not away from them.
Hmmm you have a point though, but how do you actually create a balance between your me time and the time you need to spend wr your partner. Like when does me time becomes too much, or when does the amount of time you spend with your partner becomes too much? I have seen cases where people say their partners are too clingy simply because that partner wants to spend time with them. The I have seen cases where they say their partners no longer loves them, meanwhile the partner just wants some me time.
It is true that they are couples, at the same time, there's no rule that says that they must spend every minute of the day together.
Sometimes, working or hanging out with friends might mean you will not be with your partner at that particular time. But at the end of the day, you get back with them and you make the remaining time count.
Sometimes, working or hanging out with friends might mean you will not be with your partner at that particular time. But at the end of the day, you get back with them and you make the remaining time count.
In a relationship, if you look for personal space, I do not think that relationship will last long. If you get a feeling of being away from your partner and spend time alone or even with your friends, I am afraid, your relationship is in danger.
So does this mean you have to be with them all the time? What if there are certain things you want to do that your partner doesn't like how do you sort that out? Let's say sports for example. The girl doesn't like sports and as a guy you would want to spend time with your guy to watch sports.
You seem to confuse spending time together with enjoying hobbies. You both are free to enjoy your hobbies. If the man likes golfing and the woman does not like golfing, or if the woman likes knitting and the man does not like knitting, I did not mean they should try things they don't like. What I mean is there should be no room for personal space. If you are looking for personal space, the very foundations of your relationships are shaking.
This is what I was kind of getting at with my first post.
However, it's important to find the right partner in the first place with similar values and interests, so you can enjoy things together. Don't settle if there is someone out there who doesn't share a strong core value, such as religion, politics, etc., as that is going to be a disaster in the long term. Settling with someone who has opposite core values than you is probably going to be the driving factor for you to want personal time, which will leave the relationship shaky.
I think the best way to go about this is by keeping a little distance from each other. In this way, it would promote togetherness. Also, communication is key as it's one of the things that enhance the bond between partners.
I will always say it that there should be a room for courtship and cohabiting before getting married. This allows you to have the opportunity to know your partner and be sure if it's something both of you can work out with before getting married. If you can't cohabit and court well, it's never going to work out in marriage.
Nevertheless, it is good for couples to spend some time together before marriage. Living together and dating means you will be able to understand each other in detail. These are because you get to learn each other’s schedules and needs such as when the other person wants to be left alone. This will assists one to solve issues that may come up.
Courting can help a lot. Knowing each other before marriage can be good in the sense that individuals can learn each other’s needs, time and space, among others. This way, people acquire understanding of when the other person might require personal space and time thus avoiding conflict of some kind.
You should never be too busy for your partner. When you do that, that's how you start growing apart and one would be tempted to find closure from other friends and it's how cheating starts. In as much as it's necessary to work and make money, know that there's time for everything.