discuss Getting married without the intention of having kids?

[Ja sa bong]

Kids are what defines a relationship when you get married. They might not matter when it's only but a boyfriend and girlfriend relationship but when it's going to be husband and wife, having kids is paramount.

How do you feel about some people getting married without the intention of having kids? Didn't there parents get married and have them as kids? Why choose not to have kids not because they can't take of them but simply because they don't want it?

 

[dorkyguy]

If you get married without the intention to have kids, I don't think that's an issue, to be honest. As I know people, couples that have got married have no intention of having kids. I'm newly married to my husband, and my intention is to have 2 or 4 kids, but sadly, we can't do that the normal way. But we will be having kids either by adoption or other ways

But getting married shouldn't put pressure on any couple to have kids...

 

[Shawn]

I got married the day before I turned 40.

I have no kids. I have two stepchildren now. One was 12 when I entered her life and her brother was 18. Their daddy passed away last year, sadly. If they ever needed a dad-like person, they know that I'll be there for them. I love them both as if they're mine and always will.

But I'm too old to have kids and I don't want any.

And I'm fine with that!

 

[NatureFreak]

I definitely want kids in my marriage. There is absolutely no reason for me to think otherwise, I'd like to have kids I can call my own.

 

[Lord Severus]

I am already in a marriage and we have decided that we wont be having children. So for me, its not an intention, it has been already decided.

We dont want children because we are already working at different parts of the country and to come together would be very difficult. On top of that, I think raising children are a hassle

 

[MamaFrankie]

Why should anyone have kids if they don't want them?

I decided at the age of 8 I wasn't having any.

 

[Lord Severus]

Why should anyone have kids if they don't want them?

I decided at the age of 8 I wasn't having any.

My reason for not having kids are that they are a hassle.

Additionally, I dont think I would be very good parent also since I am short tempered.

If I may ask you, and please feel free to decline if you are uncomfortable, why did you take a decesion like this?

 

[Yama]

I decided at the age of 8 I wasn't having any.

At that age, I did not even understand marriage
Well, I decided I wouldn't get married or have children at the age of 15 but I eventually got married and now have two kids.

 

[Lord Severus]

At that age, I did not even understand marriage
Well, I decided I wouldn't get married or have children at the age of 15 but I eventually got married and now have two kids.

In that case, it would be interesting to know your perspective also.

Why did you initially decide that you downt want children and why did you change the decesion?

Of course, please feel free to skip if you are not comfortable answering it

 

[Yama]

In that case, it would be interesting to know your perspective also.

Why did you initially decide that you downt want children and why did you change the decesion?

Of course, please feel free to skip if you are not comfortable answering it

I wanted to live as a digital nomad and getting married and having kids would restrict me. However, over the years I could not earn enough money to support my travel. Then one day I met a woman, and got married with her 3 months later and had the first child 3 years later.

 

[MamaFrankie]

I am actually asexual and don't like kids anyway.

 

[Lord Severus]

I am actually asexual and don't like kids anyway.

Yes, perfectly understandable.

Have you ever thought of adoption?

 

[MamaFrankie]

No because as I said, I don't like children.

 

[Ja sa bong]

I got married the day before I turned 40.

I have no kids. I have two stepchildren now. One was 12 when I entered her life and her brother was 18. Their daddy passed away last year, sadly. If they ever needed a dad-like person, they know that I'll be there for them. I love them both as if they're mine and always will.

But I'm too old to have kids and I don't want any.

And I'm fine with that!

I know at some certain age, it is difficult to start having kids and starts taking care of them from a very tender age until they grow up. A lot of people use that as a reason why they don't want to have kids and it's totally understandable.